….when you have no time to spare.
Do you sometimes feel as though you’re stretched too thin? It seems like you’ve got so much going on from child care, work stress, half-finished projects, household duties and the list goes on and on. Remember those days when you could lie on the sofa and eat chocolate bonbons all day while watching soap operas? Yeah…me either (ha-ha). How many times have you wished that you could have an entire day just for yourself to do whatever you wanted….if not a day maybe just a few hours, or even a few minutes? I totally get it, because I live it every single day.
As parents it seems like we are always thinking about everyone else and have every little time to just think about ourselves for a change. We naturally put ourselves on the back burner in order to care for our kids and accomplish so much every single day. While there is nothing wrong with that, it’s not only healthy but necessary to find time for ourselves as well.
How does a frazzled mom find a little time for herself?
Talk A Walk or Just Get Outside
If you don’t have much time, just take five minutes, walk outside and shut the door behind you. Breathe in deeply and take in the sights and sounds. Sometimes a change of scenery is enough to mentally refresh ourselves. One of the things that I love to do to recharge is to take a simple walk. It doesn’t have to be a high energy workout. It may just be a 10 minute walk around the block. How long it is doesn’t matter…of course the longer the better. Walk slowly or fast, the speed is totally up to you and your mood. Remember, this is your time right now.
Another way I sneak in a little me time is by going on a bike ride, but here’s the catch…my kids usually come with me. However, I always bring along my favorite music on my phone and a set of earphones. So while we are all enjoying a nice bike ride, I get a little time to listen to music and relax as well. It’s kind of like getting more bang for the buck….kids are busy exerting tons of energy, I’m getting a little exercise, and enjoying some down time as well.
Wake Up Early Or Go To Bed Late
Now before you tell me that you’re already sleep-deprived as it is, hear me out first. You can get some time for yourself in the morning or at night depending on whether you’re a night owl or a morning person to begin with and what time of day your household generally rises and goes to bed. I used to be a night owl in my pre-mom days, but now, not so much. When I’m seeking a little time for myself, I set my phone alarm (I know, I hate alarms too) to wake me up about 20 minutes ahead of the rest of the household. This isn’t always easy because I love my sleep, but the thought of having a cup of coffee without anyone asking me questions or having to think about anything important sounds almost too good to be true. Even 10 minutes early can give you that little break that you need before the craziness of the day begins.
If you’re more of a night owl, you can do this too. Once everyone has gone to bed..it’s YOU time mama. I admit that I do indulge in watching conspiracy videos on YouTube for a while before catching some much needed Zzzzz. Whether waking up just a bit early, or staying up late, I look forward to that little slice of mom time just for me.
Delegate Delegate Delegate
I love that word….delegate, and I have learned to use it wisely over the years. How about you? If you have children who are old enough to handle taking on some household responsibilities, then let them! I’m a control freak (I can admit it) so it’s hard to let go and let someone else come in and take over doing something that I feel can only be done properly by myself. I used to be that mom who could do it all. Then I realized that not only was I doing a disservice to my kids by not letting them help me, I wasn’t helping myself either. Your kids (and your husband or significant other) can and should take some of the load off of your shoulders, if they aren’t doing it already. Make a list of things that need to be done each day. Give everyone in your household something to do. I have two teens and a tween that actually enjoy helping out because it makes them feel like responsible, much needed members of the family. Even my youngest child can help do little things around the house with me.
Once you learn how to delegate tasks well, something magical happens. You get a little more time to just breathe!
It’s hard to put ourselves first when it’s the last thing on our minds, but finding time for yourself is so important. You deserve a break, even if it’s a short one. Waking up early or staying up late is just one way to get some “you” time. Don’t forget that it’s perfectly ok to delegate and ask for help. Just five minutes can help you feel more relaxed, and ready to take on the rest of the day. You may not have time for bonbons and soap operas during this busy phase of life, but spending a little “you” time will help you be a happier, healthier mom.