When I started writing my third financial book – this one especially for women – I came across an article in the LA Times that noted “almost half of U.S women fear becoming bag ladies, even many of those earning six-figure salaries.” This was true even though six in ten women reported that they were the primary breadwinners and 54% of them managed the household finances.
The article then said that women worried that “financial achievement alienates both men and other women.” 42% said “financially independent women intimidate men and run the risk of ending up alone,” and 32% said “those women are hard to relate to and don’t have many friends.”
Yikes. Talk about a “Catch-22”! If you’re not financially successful, you’ll end up homeless on the street, and if you are, no one will like you?!
This mind-set is what stops women from asking for a raise, pricing their products and services to be profitable, and even to invest their savings wisely. This has to change if women are ever going to achieve financial parity with men. We have to start thinking that being financially successful is a terrific ideal for women, and that we can still be kind, caring, loving, wives, mothers, and citizens.
After all, if we’re richer, we’ll have more to donate to charitable causes, more to help our families, and we can stop worrying and even start feeling secure.
Ask the men in your life what they would think and feel if you became financially successful in a business. Would they like it? Enlist their support to start thinking more positively about your earning potential, and then take action to achieve it.
Together you can practice positive affirmations each day, like: “People love to give me money!”, “I am rich and happy!”, and “All my clients praise me and pay me!”
Change your thinking and change your money. It’s magical!
Chellie Campbell is the creator of the Financial Stress Reduction® Workshops, and author of The Wealthy Spirit, Zero to Zillionaire, and From Worry to Wealthy. She has been prominently quoted as a financial expert in the Los Angeles Times, Good Housekeeping, Lifetime, Essence, Woman’s World and more than 50 popular books. Her web site is www.chellie.com